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Tuesday, July 11, 2006

Patience is a virtue


This is one of my first main posts….inshallah there will be many more to come.I’ve decided to base my first topic on patience, I chose this topic as I think that in this day an age for a women to remain patient and to keep her ‘cool’ is somewhat difficult due to the everyday stressors.’ I myself find it rather difficult to remain patient at times when you think you wish people did things your way, and your parents wouldn’t squeal at the slightest mistake you make all this leads to you becoming angry and thus giving in to shaytan…….and patience is just not the option at the time …anyway I would jus like to enlighten my fellow readers about the quality’s of patient and what rewards and virtues lie in being patient.

A Muslim women who is truly guided by Islam and who acquires noble characteristics trains herself to be patient, to control her anger, to forgive and to respond to an evil deed with something better, in accordance with the words of the quran:

…..who restrain anger and pardon (all) men- for Allah loves those who do good….
(Quran 3:134)

…..nor can goodness and evil be equal. Repel (evil) with what is better: then will he between whom and you was hatred become as it were your friend and intimate! And no one will be granted such goodness except those who exercise patience and self restraint – none but persons of the greatest good fortune…. (Quran 41:34-35)

self restraint at the time of anger and adopting a calm and patient attitude is what every women should strive for, as this is the most beautiful quality of a believing man or women and Allah loves to see his slave in such a way.

….the prophet s.a.w said to Abdul Qais: ‘you have two qualities that Allah loves: patience and deliberation’ (sahih Muslim)

Wouldn’t we want to have such qualities? if we do, we need to strive for such qualities how shall we strive?....well there are many ways, doing things according to Allah, improving ones character, always keeping in mind that anger will not improve any situation.
There are situations in which every Muslim has a right to become angry, carelessness, wilful neglect and insolence towards matters of religion, in theses situations by all means she should be angry.

The prophet s.a.w never took revenge for his own sake. But if the laws of Allah were violated, he would take revenge for the sake of Allah….(fath al bar)

The prophet s.a.w used to become enraged, and his face would redden, if he heard someone insult the reputation of Islam, or if he discovered some error or negligence in carrying out its laws. There are many incidents in which our prophet became angry but none were because of his personal issues all were for the sake of Islam and Allah; anger should be for the sake of Allah not for ones ego.

Therefore an ideal Muslim who understands the teaching of Islam will always remember the example of the prophet s.a.w his teachings, behaviour and deeds in mind so she controls herself when she becomes angry with people, and her anger is only for the sake of Allah, his religion and the sanctity of his laws.

Another thing I wish to point out, even though one feels angry when an individual commits a sin or acts with negligence she should not feel angry with the person but the sin they have committed, as to ‘err is human nature’ and with these mistakes inshallah one will learn never to do it again.

Overall, patience is the key to success when one is patient and calm everything will eventually work out, as Allah loves those who are patient thus some goodness must lie in being patient.

I know it is rather difficult to keep ones cool… as we are humans and we become angry without even us knowing its like a immediate reaction to a certain situation however we need to overcome this and always think before we speak and to always keep the words of Allah and his rasul in our mind as this is the only thing that will give us success in this world and inshallah in the hereafter.

May Allah give me and you the ability to act upon what has been said in this post….

Duas needed



Blogger aisha said...

wa'alaikum salaam.jus wanted to say dat masha'allah that was wicked.keep up the good work, and insha'allah you'll get a good reward in this world and the hereafter.

11:26 pm  
Blogger Umm Zahra said...

Assalamualaykum warahmatullah,

Jazaka'Allah khair for the enlightening post, keep them coming in.

Can't wait to see more posts from your blog :)

Ameen wa thuma ameen to duaas.

Duaas needed.
Wassalamualaykum warahmatullah

10:07 am  

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